Finding the positive in life’s negatives. Easier said than done.

I am happy to report that after two visits, I feel pretty comfortable with my new Psychologist. (which as we all know, can either go great or terrible when getting a new doctor of any kind 😉

She does a really great job of listening, and not jumping to solve my issues or give her immediate opinion. She has never asked the dreadful “how does the make you feel” question, thank goodness. But I think what I really like about her is that she helps me pull the positives out of my situations. A viewpoint that can be hard to see when you get down to a certain level of sadness or frustration.

In my most recent session, she helped me realize that in the last 3 weeks since I have seen her, although a lot of really bad shit happened, I was able to create a sense of happiness for not only me, but my family, during a really tough time.

Getting a new dog not only brought a whole new world of happiness to my life, but it also helped my family and I when I went back home for my uncle’s funeral.

My father and I have been struggling a bit with communication (my pain is too invisible for him to understand), so I wasn’t sure how the weekend would go. We didn’t necessarily leave things on a good note last time we spoke. But, this was his brother’s funeral and I knew I needed to put my own issues with him aside and be there for him like he has been there for me so many other times.

My doctor helped me see that Bagel (my new dog!) helped generate a sense of helpfulness and care-taking that my parents haven’t been able to provide with the difficulty of my new sickness. They were able to help me take Bagel outside for walks when my legs electrified in pain, feed her and give her water when I could barely move out of bed, and play with her when my arms and hands were to weak to use.

They were able to be there for me in a way they haven’t been able to in a long time, and that was all because life happened out of order, and Bagel brought us all together again.

Life is never easy. Its really about how we deal with life’s situations, good and bad, that matter. I’m so thankful to my doctor for helping me realize the positive, that I created, that came out of a very negative and tough situation. I need to try to do this more in life!!

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